There have been many incidents in my life where I have made someone upset, and vice versa. But perhaps out of all these incidents, the ones that I remember most vividly would be those little arguments that I had with my family members, who are the closest to me. They would be the last people on earth whom I want to enrage and have a poor relationship with.
This incident happened back when I was in secondary school where I had an argument with my sister. The reason – I had woke her up while she was in the middle of her sleep to head down to carry some stuff up for my parents. Of course, I could have gone down to help my parents out but I just did not do it. As a result, we had a cold war for about two weeks, which was really unbearable for me.
Looking back at it, I knew that I was at fault for this incident. My sister was really tired as she had been out all night, and I was not considerate enough to let her have her well deserved rest. Recognizing this fact, I made the first move to stop the cold war by apologizing to her. As family, we do not bear any grudges. So I was forgiven and the cold war was over.
An unresolved problem will continue to be unresolved if no one were to do anything about it. The longer you drag it, the tougher it will be to resolve the problem as more pent up feelings begin to build up. And so, the morale of the story is this – if one is at fault, then one should not be ashamed to take the first step in resolving it. A simple phrase like “I’m sorry” can do wonders! J
Hello fiona! I totally agree with you the best way of solving a problem is grabbing the bull by its horn! It's just that at times, it is pretty hard to muster that courage to say those magical words "I'm sorry"; especially when you know you are in the wrong. Feels that way for me, I wonder why! Haha. :)
ReplyDeleteyes- I totally agree with your message of "being the bigger person" especially when the relationship matters to us. My sister and I used to have petty siblng rivalry when we were growing up. For starters, she was always the pretty one in the family and ... yes... you guessed right- I was the ugly duckling!:))) So we used to fight over stupid things and not talk for days on end. But as we grew up we realised how stupid that was and that we each had our strengths and weaknesses but together we could optimise the strengths and overcome many challenges. Today we are the best of friends and we never do anyhting important without consulting each other. She live sin the US and I miss her physical presence here a lot but she calls me every day and we've become quite inseparable:))
ReplyDeleteSher Lynn: Yeah i agree that sometimes saying sorry might be REALLY difficuly! But at this point I will always imagine about those consquences that may happen if I don't apologize. That always works for me :D
ReplyDeleteDr Jaidev: I concur that siblings always argue over the most stupid things! But siblings will always forgive one another since everyone's family :) It's nice to know that you and your sister are inseparable, for it is the same for me and sister as well :)